Conversations.

[Colin]

Hi,

I'm still pretty much a new member but I've been a member of other forums for many years.

A short while ago I wished to send a member a personal message but could only find "Conversations" I compiled the message under Conversations but then deleted the message because I didn't know if the message would appear on the open forum?

A little later a member contacted me under Conversations so then I understood; however a few days ago another member contacted me in error having not understood the Conversation button? Because of this I've now gained another friend but how many more must feel confused about using the Conversation button? Other forums I'm a member of have PM's (Personal messages).

I hope I'm not being a pest because I'm easily confused being a dinosaur.

Kind regards, Colion.

 

[Daren]

Hi Colion Colin If you just Click on the members name You are Given the Option to send a Personal message. I'll send one to you now your get it

 

[Ian]

Hi Colin,

Yep, the "conversations" feature is a personal message feature - it won't appear visible to anyone else other than the participants. I've occasionally had a message in error this way, as new members may not realise that it's not how to start a thread on the forum.

The only other way of messaging is to write on a members profile page - these message are public and appear on the profile page of a particular member. I don't use this form of messaging, but I know that some people like it - so I've left it enabled.

 

[Colin]

Hi,

Many thanks Daren for your information and for your conversation message which I've replied to; it's kind of you.

Thanks Ian for the detailed explanation which I appreciate. I did suss out eventually how to use conversations but then I received the message in error so thought perhaps other new members might also be a little confused? This forum though is brilliant but I think I'm going to need strong medication and lots of counselling to wean me from the forum if springtime ever arrives allowing me to get into the garden.

It's a great forum Ian thanks for letting me play on it.

Kind regards, Colin.

 

[MaryMary]

While we're on the subject, what does "Leave conversation" mean? Does that delete it?


What is a "Starred conversation?"

 

[Ian]

While we're on the subject, what does "Leave conversation" mean? Does that delete it?


What is a "Starred conversation?"

Yep, "Leave conversation" is essentially deleting it - it won't show up in your list of conversations anymore. I think the forum developers avoided using "delete" as there are multiple participants in conversations, so deleting it would imply it's removed for all people, but leaving only removes it from that member (if that makes sense).

"Starred" conversations are a little like bookmarked ones. If you star it (from the link at the top of the conversation) then it will keep a list of all of the starred conversations which you can access from a quick menu. I've never used this myself, but if you've got lots of chats going on then it could be handy . I had to test this out just now to find out how it worked .

 

[MaryMary]

leaving only removes it from that member (if that makes sense).

Yes, it makes sense, but it also leads me to a new question. (You know that I am full of questions! .)

Once I've exchanged a pm with someone, I keep it. When I have something new to say to that person, I just add it to the old pm, rather than starting a new one. (Sort of like a private thread. .) I like to see the things we have talked about before; I use it as a reference.

So, if they have left the conversation, but I "bump that thread," does it "refresh" the whole conversation for them? Do they see the things we talked about before? Or do they just get the new conversation with the old conversation "title?"

 

[Ian]

Hmmm... you know, I don't know the answer to that one. I suspect if the other person leaves the conversation and there's only 1 person left, then it won't let you reply to it. I've never use the leave conversation button before.

I'll send you a conversation message now and then leave it, so try replying to it and see what happens .

 

[Ian]

Message sent!

It looks like it may bump the conversation message after all, as I got this popup when I clicked "leave":

 

[MaryMary]

Ian, I am glad that you, too, are a curious soul.


So... anybody else, if you send me a pm... make the title something grand!!!

 

[MaryMary]

@Ian, I did send another message to see what happened if you picked option 2.

The system did not tell me that I was being denied. Not knowing if you got that message, I wanted to confirm that I sent one.

 

[Colin]

Hi,

How about "Summer is here" MaryMary; now that wouldn't only be grand it would be a miracle.

Looks like I started something adding this thread; I also don't know how to text on my mobile phone and the TV remote drives me mad but then this forum is more interesting than text messages or TV remote controls.

Kind regards, Colin.

 

[Ian]

Sorry for taking this a bit off-topic @Colin, but thought it would be interesting to figure out how this feature worked .

@Ian, I did send another message to see what happened if you picked option 2.

The system did not tell me that I was being denied. Not knowing if you got that message, I wanted to confirm that I sent one.

Thanks @MaryMary! Nope, I didn't get anything after picking option 2. Did it say it was sent from your end, or did it give any sort of error?

 

[MaryMary]

Did it say it was sent from your end, or did it give any sort of error?

Nope, nothing to tell me that you were ignoring me!! I guess that I could send infinite messages and never be the wiser.

How about "Summer is here" MaryMary; now that wouldn't only be grand it would be a miracle.

Oh, book, movie, or song titles!

If you got summer and wanted to talk about it - it would have to be Winds of Change!! Maybe... Ripley's Believe It Or Not.

 

[Ian]

Nope, nothing to tell me that you were ignoring me!! I guess that I could send infinite messages and never be the wiser.

Hmm, I'm not sure if I like that feature of XenForo! I didn't get any notifications at all, I suppose the option message did warn me that it would ignore future messages . Thanks for helping me test this!

 

[Daren]

Hello Hello Hello. What's going on here then?.......Gardeners ......Looks like a lot of Conversations Has the garden jobs got done while you been Chatting

 

[MaryMary]

Hmm, I'm not sure if I like that feature of XenForo! I didn't get any notifications at all, I suppose the option message did warn me that it would ignore future messages . Thanks for helping me test this!

It doesn't seem very nice to the person being ignored, does it? Then again, if the first person has decided to ignore the other...maybe it's better overall if they don't know!

People are weird. In a forum I visited years and years ago, two members were having private conversations. A casual flirtation, as I understood it. The female member took it way too far, declared undying love, wanted to leave her husband and move to where he was. So he refused to answer her messages.

She went round the bend. If he mentioned another female member by name in a post, then she would immediately send that person a message. (And there I was, minding my own business.....)

"I see he said your name...Why won't he talk to me??" (How would I know?)

"Will you send him a message, and tell him I am sorry?" (No, no I will not.)

"So then you want to be with him? Are you trying to take him?"




Could be better if they don't know they're being ignored.

I wonder if you can get a message from someone you are ignoring?

 

[Ian]

Who needs soap operas, when you have forums like that

I wonder if you can get a message from someone you are ignoring?

Could you try sending a new conversation to me please, just to make sure it hasn't all conversations from you (only that particular one). From what I understand, it essentially mutes that particular conversation, but I just want to make sure .

 

[MaryMary]

Message sent!!

 

[Ian]

Message sent!!

Thanks! It came through OK - so it looks like it does just mute that individual conversation .