Being in Texas, I am fairly familiar with cattle manure. It contains a lot of weed seeds, so needs to be composted. Also, if you use it "straight" without mixing in grass clippings, shredded newspaper, etc. it tends to clump and form concrete blocks.
That said, it is absolutely great for the vegetable garden (I don't waste my amount, much, much less than your 3 1/2 tons) because it is relatively mild and the plants get a good mix of nutrients from it. Composted cattle manure also adds quite a bit of tilth to the garden, improving the soil.
Lucky you to know so many cows!