A lot of the illnesses in our country are from chemical saturation, chemical poisoning. For example, you can follow and find the graphs for populations of Krohn's Disease, Autism follow the graphs for glyphosate PERFECTLY with no deviation. But I think the glyphosate is not the only culprit. Instead it just represents the spearhead of all kinds of chemicals in food we're exposed to or that are put in the food. Your body can't process those chemicals, but your body has acids like stomach acid that are trying to break them down. So some of them pass through... but not all of them will. And so things like Irritable Bowl Syndrome start occuring in large numbers of the population. And all kinds of things...
I agree with you to try to find something that won't have paint or oils in it.
I hope you can reach your spouse and help them be willing to find something else. Its very possible that there might be some similar totes that you can find elsewhere that haven't had heavy chemicals in them.
I hope for your success in this and that you can reach your family in a way to find harmony with the decision also to keep peace in the house.